When I was 34 years old I met an amazing person who would make a tremendous impact on my life. I thought he was going to be my in my life forever, but he ended up being a life lesson. He was my guide, my teacher, my coach, my rock, and he encouraged me to be a better soldier and a person in life.
We met on a U.S. Army Base in Maryland on a PT field. He had just transferred in from another reserve unit. I didn't like him at first, but he eventually grew on me. We moved very slowly in the beginning. The relationship department had never been great for me, so I figured this was just another flop, but we lasted for two years. The first year was good, even though I had to get adjusted to being with someone because I was so used to being single. The second year he started noticing peculiar things about me. He said to me,"You always run from situations. You never confront anything. You avoid everything. You can't keep running for the rest of your life. You have to stop and think about why you're doing that. You have to fight for yourself and your life."
I denied it all and acted as if I didn't know what he was talking about. When our relationship ended I was hurt, but I realized he was placed in my life to make me go back to the place where I would find the answers I needed in order for me to move forward. My relationship wasn't a waste or a mistake. It was a life lesson designed to help and teach me.
When people found out we were over they blamed him, but I told them it was all me. We end up better off in life when we stand up and accept responsibility and stop playing the victim all the time. When you become empowered you'll see positive results.
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